Coffee Break #15

This is straight-up one of the most important + relevant articles on the internet. “My guess is that most creative work operates on a negative returns curve. I know in the past when I’ve done design work, I’ve tinkered with an image so much that I can’t even tell if it looks good or not anymore. I would then spend half the night trying to make it “look right,” only to wake up in the morning realizing the idea sucked in the first place and I was better off starting over.”

“Some things in life cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.”

24 Thoughts I, A Modern-Day New Yorker, Had During “When Harry Met Sally” – Laughed out loud (for real). I used to watch this movie allllllll the tiiiiiiime when I lived alone in my early twenties. (That said… driving from Chicago to NYC in one go isn’t that difficult, so that’s a weird observation. It’s 13 hours. I’ve driven close to twice that in a straight shot by myself. #humblebrag)

How to Work on your Creative Business When You’re Depressed as Fuck – This has been true for a lot of us since… November? Maybe even earlier? It’s been a tough time to be a creative, for sure. #thankstrump

Worrying is Not an Action Step. Mara is brilliant as always.

And finally… (closing out with some fun ones, per usual)

The Ongoing Influence of Darlene Conner.

Why Belle Should Have Chosen Gaston. (Sidenote: Did you see the new movie? What did you think? I’m a diehard Beauty and the Beast fan, and I really enjoyed it.)

Coffee Break #14


Happy February! I have some things from the internet for you.

“You are as you are until you’re not. You change when you want to change. You put your ideas into action in the timing that is best. That’s just how it happens.

And what I think we all need more than anything is this: permission to be wherever the fuck we are when we’re there.

To anyone who thinks they’re falling behind by Jamie Varon (who is totally brilliant – I’ve been swooning over her writing a lot recently.)

Yesterday, Jessica wrote on Body Image and Business, and I love her for it. I gained quite a lot of weight after starting my business, and I’ve only lost (most of) it this past year — also by finally making self-care a priority (which is super hard to do when you’re in startup mode). It’s troubling, the extent to which feeling uncomfortable in your body impacts everything else. (By the way, Jessica is super adorable and seems so at home in herself with her bright pink hair – just goes to show you that we all tend to be a little too hard on ourselves, huh?)

Related: Work, Sleep, Family, Fitness, or Friends: Pick 3 — as much as I hate to admit it, this is true for me. My current 3 are work, fitness, friends. No idea what I’ll do when my husband and I live together again. He counts as family, right? Or can I hack the system and count him as a friend? Plus I’ll probably need to sleep more often when I’m not living like a pseudo-single lady and running myself ragged. ADULTING IS HARD GUYS.

Entrepreneurship is hard. To really drive that point home: The Mental Cost of Owning a Business

I really enjoyed Lovingly know your Hell No and have since been contemplating It’s hip to be sober (which Mary Beth linked to within her post).

R.T. and I have been talking about the allocation of funds throughout our relationship, and how it’s important to “buy experiences” (even though we wish we were better about squirreling our money away). I appreciated Live Broke in a Big City – life is short, right?

To end on a super light note — 23 times D.W. was the realest bitch who ever lived. This cracked me up. (I have a lot of younger siblings and had to watch a lot of PBS far past an age when I appreciated it… Arthur was the only show that was still tolerable after age 7.)

Hey! Today is the first anniversary of the day I moved to Portland! That’s pretty crazy. Thanks for following along with this journey.

Coffee Break: 9.16.15


Autumn anxiety is real. Yeppp. I’m looking forward to autumn this year, but it would be a different story if I was back in NH.

Everything I Am Afraid Might Happen If I Ask New Acquaintances to Get Coffee. Life in a new city!

10 things emotionally intelligent people do not do. Reading this made me contemplate how much progress I’ve made in this area the last several years, and how much room there is for improvement.

“I had waited too long to remove the stain. The stain had set in. Oh my favorite shirt. That’s when it came to me: our hearts are like this too.” – We wait too long to remove the stain

How I learned to not hate exercise by Gala Darling – I’m currently on this journey and LOVING working out with a personal trainer.

“Self-development isn’t silly. It’s not self-absorbed. Figuring out who you are, what you want, and how you’re going to get it is just pretty damn sensible. It’s an investment in every other area of your life.” – Self-development isn’t selfish

Hilarious. Especially tickled by #6.

Coffee Break: The 1st of July


Happy July! Yayyy, new month!

Walk around feeling like a leaf. Lovely post – especially love the poem at the end.

Plants I haven’t Killed Yet – As another new green thumb, I thought this was really cute. (My plants are back in Portland, probably slowly dying as we speak.)

“In many ways, marketing as a listener is about (creating and) holding space. When you market as a listener, you’re creating a container for others experiences.” – Tara Gentile’s brilliant advice on marketing when you’d rather be listening. I seriously need to read and re-read this on a weekly basis.

8 things everyone should do before 8am. Confession: I tend to drag my feet in the morning. It’s a huge time suck. I’m going to try this.

“The solution is not to build a bigger wall. The solution is figuring out how to build a society in which we don’t need a bigger wall.” The internet is some trippy shit… is maybe my favorite thing Ash has ever written.

LSD, a $20,000 Investment, and the Perfect Breakup – Such courage & vulnerability here. (I’m a sucker for a healthy/amicable breakup story. I just dig them.)

A long but amusing & important read: The Procrastination Matrix.

Note, kinda related to the above link: I’ve decided to end my 100 Days of Blogging challenge this Saturday, at day 50. I’ll write more about the why & what I’ve learned on Saturday, but I’m mentioning it now so that it doesn’t seem like a rash decision.

Coffee Break: June 24th


A few things I’ve enjoyed around the web this week…

The day after the longest day of the year – beautiful writing from Amanda Palmer on the death of her best friend. Do not read this at work or in public.

10 Things to Look Forward to on the Other Side of Busyness – Getting there. Getting there.

This guy ate only food “for women” for two weeks. Amusing, sure, but also kind of sad. (Spoiler: Most of that stuff is not actually food.) “… Because if you replace full meals with Special K you’ll essentially starve, which is definitely one way to lose weight.”

How to Become an Ally to the Black Community. I am typically silent about painful topics like racism and these events (most recently, the Charleston shootings) on social media. It’s not because I don’t care, obviously. I don’t know what to say that hasn’t already been said a lot more eloquently than I can say it. But, I am aware that looking away because it hurts my heart is an egregious abuse of my privilege and absolutely the wrong thing to do. It should hurt. We should all be feeling it, and talking about it, and identifying the ways that we’re part of the problem, and then immediately cutting that shit out.

And, along the same vein: This is my house. “I don’t have to tell you that Nazi’s are bad and mass murderers are fuckheads and that racism is bullshit and suicide should be avoided and rape is shitty and water is wet and cats will scratch you if given enough time. This is all common sense. If I have to say this out loud for you to get those things then you are in the wrong place.”

Shifting gears to something a little more light-hearted, two weeks of status updates from your vague friends on Facebook made me chuckle.

And, finally, a special offer! My friend Allie recently launched the Love your Website e-course, offering a DIY-approach to crafting a strategic online space. She was also sweet enough to offer a discount code for me to share with you — if you’d like to give it a shot, you can use the code sixteenjuly for $30 off.

Coffee Break: June 17


Things I believe – Lindsey is such a beautiful writer. Love these words.

This whole thing, especially: Sincerity is a form of power.

I was faced with a choice. Either miss out on all of the things I wanted to do, see, and experience if no one could go with me, or put my big girl panties on and just get out there! So, I chose the latter.How I learned to be my own plus one. Yeah! A topic clearly very dear to my heart.

Eight things you can live without. All true. Moving across the country with nothing & making myself comfortable in a 460sqft live/work studio has made me really aware of how little you really need. (The bags thing, though… can’t really get behind that. I have at least three that I use regularly.)

The Collaborative Designer – wise words from Marie Poulin.

Workaholism & my Slow Road to Real Productivity – a great read, even for those of us who consider ourselves to be workaholics in recovery. (I dig the idea of not answering emails first thing in the morning. I might have to try that.)

How to Eat a Healthy Whole Foods, Plant-Based Diet on $50 Per Week – seems very practical. I might give this a shot when I get back from NH next month.

Coffee Break: June 10


Digging this series on morning routines around the world.

We’re married and we have roommates. I dig this. I’ve said at points that I’m done having non-partner roommates at this point in my life, but the idea of a cooperative household sounds really nice at times. (And yay for saving money & other resources.)

I Have Been Sitting on Manspreaders For the Last Month and I Have Never Felt More Free – OMG.

“Please don’t think I don’t see the mould or the dark or the hard, because believe me, I do. But when it comes down to it, we all have a choice in what story we tell.”Living in a land of butterflies and pancakes :: Even though I only moved to a new city and not a wild new country, I relate to so much of Meghan’s relocation journey.

We’re building this wrong – thoughts on building a better web from Jesse Von Doom.

On Productivity Anxiety.


Coffee Break: June 3


I see music because I have synesthesia, so I decided to paint what I hear (via elise) – As a fellow synesthete, I’m always fascinated by how it presents for other people, especially when there’s overlap with my own experience.

We understand deeply that life is a heartbreakingly beautiful series of goodbyes, hellos, triumphs and disappointments and we feel most alive in the midst of transformation, courageously shedding our old skin to be birthed again, raw and new. (This is for the free spirited females with fiercely sensitive hearts.)

This comic is pretty profound. I’ll leave it at that.

Things I’ve learned about Heterosexual Female Desire from Decades of Reading Ha.

Notice the stories you tell yourself about yourself.

Buddy Up and Start a Get Shit Done Club – Great idea. I have a collection of ambitious boss ladies in my life to unofficially fill this role for me #luckyme

Add to the love in the world: A challenge – I particularly love #4 – Mine for GOLD in everyone and #6 – Be Shattered. (Be an elegant disaster. Boy, am I.)

Coffee break: May Days


Here are some things I’ve enjoyed around the web since we last had a coffee break together:

What your name would be if you were born today. I’m a total name nerd, and I spent a super long time on this, entering the names of everyone I know. (According to the ranking, if I’d been born this year, my parents would have named me Brianna.)

Self employment is a master’s degree in spiritual growth and other words of wisdom from Jennifer Louden.

Sarah J. Bray’s pocket guide to e-mail marketing – pin this! Sarah’s a smarty.

Some advice on balancing a blog and a day job. This 100 Days of Blogging challenge has been tough, let me tell you. I’m soaking up all the blogging advice I can get.

Breaking past even – mainstream business advice I can get behind!

IHTM: I am in a long-distance open marriage. Yep! Painfully accurate.

I want to be a sea-hag. Not a mermaid. And, another call for a little more real-ness in our internet lives: Imperfectly. (I dig it. I also dig really pretty Instagram feeds, so, you know. Do what you’re doing.)

Coffee Break: Out like a lamb


Hard to believe that April is upon us already. I leave next week for my first return trip to NH! I’ll be there for several weeks. Then, R.T. is driving across the country with me so that I’ll have my trusty Honda Civic with me here in Portland. Oh, April. I’m so excited for what you have in store.

Here are a few things I’ve enjoyed around the web since our last coffee break together:

I so relate to this. To my core. “I had been accepting no as an answer in so many areas of my life and whittling down my vibrancy.” Like Mara wrote it for me.

I’ve been obsessed with Apartment Therapy lately. I love all the eye candy and brilliant ideas, but I’ve also been digging the love-your-life posts, like 10 Simple Things to Make you Happier at Home and How to Live Alone Without Feeling Lonely.

CSS puns – a fun mashup of two things I hate to love.

There’s no such thing as a leap of faith. “Changing your life – really changing it – requires more than a single leap. It actually requires leaping – a little or a lot – every single day.”

I’m still obsessed with capsule wardrobes. I loathe everything I brought to Portland with me two months ago. I think that’s because it’s time for spring colors and everything I have with me is dark. Feeling inspired by Elise’s spring capsule even though our styles are really different.

Digging this Scrapbook Sunday series at A Beautiful Mess. I was so good about Project Life for a few months last year, and then totally dropped the ball. But I enjoy the process of scrapbooking, and I really love looking back on them later. It’s a sweet reminder of how our lives are made up of ordinary moments. So, goal for my upcoming visit to NH: get back into PL, and then haul all o’ that stuff west with me in May.

Want to see some really stunning photos of horses?

I’m looking forward to Susannah Conway’s April Love. Are you in?